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Laki-laki adalah pemimpin keluarga.

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Picture1“Orang yang paling baik diantara kamu adalah yang paling baik dengan keluarganya dan aku adalah yang paling baik terhadap keluargaku.” (HR. Thabrani). “Kaum laki-laki itu adalah pemimpin bagi kaum wanita, oleh karena Allah telah melebihkan sebahagian mereka (laki-laki) atas sebahagian yang lain (wanita), dan karena mereka (laki-laki) telah menafkahkan sebagian dari harta mereka” (QS 4:34).

Ajaran agama telah menetapkan bahwa pemegang kendali dalam keluarga adalah laki-laki. Secara umum memang laki-laki dinilai mempunyai emosi yang lebih stabil dan lebih rasional dalam mengambil keputusan. Namun semua orang tetap mempunyai peran sebagai pemimpin dan sebagai pemimpin kita tidak boleh bertindak seenaknya, karena setiap kepemimppinan akan diminta pertanggungjawabannya. 

“Seorang laki-laki / suami adalah pemimpin dalam keluarganya dan ia bertanggung jawab atas kepemimpinannya. Dan seorang wanita (istri) adalah pemimpin di rumah suaminya dan anak-anaknya ia bertanggung jawab atas kepemimpinannya. Seorang pelayan adalah pemimpin atas harta tuannya, dan ia bertanggung jawab atas kepemimpinannya. Ketahuilah bahwa setiap kamu adalah pemimpin dan masing-masing mempertanggung jawabkan atas pemimpinannya”. (HR. Bukhari, Muslim, Abu Dawud, Tarmizi)

“Kaum laki-laki itu adalah pemimpin bagi kaum wanita, oleh karena Allah telah melebihkan sebahagian mereka (laki-laki) atas sebahagian yang lain (wanita), dan karena mereka (laki-laki) telah menafkahkan sebagian dari harta mereka” (QS 4:34).

Memberikan nafkah.

Tugas laki-laki bukan hanya memimpin keluarga, tetapi juga memberikan nafkah bagi keluarganya, memberikan nafkah bukan hanya kewajiban tetapi sekaligus bernilai sedekah ; “Apa yang engkau berikan untuk makan dirimu sendiri, apa yang engkau berikan untuk makan anakmu, apa yang engkau berikan untuk makan orang tuamu, apa yang engkau berikan untuk makan isterimu, apa yang engkau berikan untuk ptg01948250makan pelayanmu, maka semua adalah sedekah bagimu” (HR Ibnu Majah).

Bahkan nafkah yang kita berikan untuk keluarga, mempunyai nilai yang besar : Rasul Saw. bersabda, “Dinar yang engkau infakkan di jalan Allah, dinar yang engkau infakkan untuk membebaskan budak, dinar yang engkau sedekahkan kepada orang miskin, dan dinar yang engkau nafkahkan kepada keluargamu, pahala yang paling besar adalah dinar yang engkau nafkahkan untuk keluargamu” (HR Muslim, Ahmad, dan Baihaqi).

Namun bisa jadi pihak istri lebih mampu dibandingkan suami, dalam hal ini ada firman Allah : “Hendaklah orang yang mampu memberi nafkah menurut kemampuannya. Dan orang yang disempitkan rezkinya hendaklah memberi nafkah dari harta yang diberikan Allah kepadanya. Allah tidak memikulkan beban kepada seseorang melainkan sekedar apa yang Allah berikan kepadanya. Allah kelak akan memberikan kelapangan sesudah kesempitan. (QS 65:7).

Bersikap baik dan sayang terhadap keluarga.

indexAgama (Nabi SAW) memberikan contoh agar kita bersikap baik dan sayang kepada keluarganya : “Orang yang paling baik diantara kamu adalah yang paling baik dengan keluarganya dan aku adalah yang paling baik terhadap keluargaku.” (HR. Thabrani).

Anas ibn Malik : ”Aku (selama 10 th) tidak pernah melihat seorang pria yang lebih sayang kepada keluarganya selain Muhammad SAW” (HR Muslim)

“Sesungguhnya, apabila seorang suami memandang isterinya (dengan kasih & sayang) dan isterinya juga memandang suaminya (dengan kasih & sayang), maka Allah akan memandang keduanya dengan pandangan kasih & sayang. Dan apabila seorang suami memegangi jemari isterinya (dengan kasih & sayang) maka berjatuhanlah dosa-dosa dari segala jemari keduanya” (HR. Abu Sa’id)

Mendidik keluarga

Selain memberikan nafkah, kasih sayang, laki-laki juga diminta untuk mendidik dengan baik : “Ya Rasulullah, apa hak anakku ini?” Nabi Muhammad Saw menjawab, “Memberinya nama yang baik, mendidik adab yang baik, dan memberinya kedudukan yang baik (dalam hatimu)” (HR. Ath-Thusi). “Ajarkan putera-puteramu berenang dan memanah”(HR. Ath-Thahawi).

mengaji2.“Hai orang-orang yang beriman, peliharalah dirimu dan keluargamu dari api neraka yang bahan bakarnya adalah manusia dan batu; penjaganya malaikat-malaikat yang kasar, yang keras, yang tidak mendurhakai Allah terhadap apa yang diperintahkan-Nya kepada mereka dan selalu mengerjakan apa yang diperintahkan”. (QS, 66:6).

”Dan perintahkanlah kepada keluargamu mendirikan salat dan bersabarlah kamu dalam mengerjakannya. Kami tidak meminta rezeki kepadamu, Kami lah yang memberi rezeki kepadamu. Dan akibat (yang baik) itu adalah bagi orang yang bertakwa”. (QS, 20:132)

Kaum laki-laki itu adalah pemimpin bagi kaum wanita, oleh karena Allah telah melebihkan sebahagian mereka (laki-laki) atas sebahagian yang lain (wanita), dan karena mereka (laki-laki) telah menafkahkan sebagian dari harta mereka. Sebab itu maka wanita yang saleh, ialah yang taat kepada Allah lagi memelihara diri ketika suaminya tidak ada, oleh karena Allah telah memelihara (mereka). (QS 4:34).

Jangan menelantarkan keluarga.

Agama islam meminta kita untuk perhatian dan perduli terhadap keluarga, karena akhirnya hanya keluarga juga yang akan membantu jika mengalami sakit atau kesulitan. Menyia-nyiakan keluarga akan menyebabkan putusnya hubungan keluarga dan sekaligus merupakan akhwat-santunperbuatan dosa. Nabi Saw. bersabda, “Cukuplah sebagai dosa bagi suami yang menyia-nyiakan orang yang menjadi tanggungannya.” (HR Muslim).

Kesuksesan kita, bangsa dan Negara berawal dari keluarga, semua bangsa dan Negara akan menjadi kuat jika keluarganya sehat, harmonis dan terdidik dengan baik. Semoga kita mampu melaksanakan semua tuntunan agama, agar selamat sejahtera di dunia dan akhirat.. amiiin.

“Barang siapa mengajak orang kepada kebaikan, maka dia akan mendapat pahala seperti pahala orang-orang yang mengikuti-nya tanpa mengurangi pahala mereka sedikitpun“ (HR. Muslim).

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